Body, mind and soul

Sweet self-esteem

The best phase when you are single is when you start to live your life on your own and Totally free from expectations from the outside.

Small things like traveling on a weekend to the place you want, to enjoy on your own… going to the market to buy healthy foods for you, just because you want to take care of you… without thinking to please someone else… just you…

To go shopping and buy clothes related to your taste and to please you, not the others…

To buy the best makeup for your skin, the best shampoo for your hair just because you like this little details for pleasing you and no one else .

To decide to have a walk alone in a forest, just to feel your own presence in the planet.

This is part of self confidence… and happiness comes easily when you stop pleasing others.

You are the most important person for yourself 😉 and life is too short …

But, could we also recognise it also when we are in a relationship ? I do need some time on my own, even when I am living with somebody. I am writing now, as a single stage in my life.

But, why not during a relationship also invest in a time by yourself? Do you do this? I would love to read about it .

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Body, mind and soul

Are you investing time for what brings you joy?

What is your passion?

Soccer is one of my passions. Maybe is my Brazilian culture.

People are always asking me if I am going to the games alone… yes! Why not? (At least was before the pandemics…)

But the main message is that to be single doesn’t mean that you have to stay at home waiting to do something only when you have somebody to go with you, that is not living!

Go after your passions, how many things that you love your are postponing just because you are waiting for someone to go with?

I am sure that you will enjoy a lot this time with yourself and who knows which new friends you can make there ! 🙂

I am making new friends wherever I go…

Life is short to be waiting for someone to walk with you, your life is only yours … your dreams and passions defines who your are and where are you willing to go in this short experience as a human. Go for it !

Follow your passions

Body, mind and soul

What have you made as foundation for your life?

During my meditation teaching journey, the pillar and the start of the teachings were on the consciousness of who we are: a body, mind and soul.

The focus was to bring to the meditation participants the awareness that in order to achieve balance, we need to get conscious of what is happening within all three, and learn how to listen to ourselves. Our body send messages all the time for us, our mind and our soul as well.

The value was not just to listen and capture the message, but also understand that we work as a system, and all those three elements are correlated and influence each other, as an example: an emotion created by a thought in the mind can generate a tension in the body bringing some pain or discomfort. And meditation is a key to capture this information.

Besides the meditation teaching per itself, I always loved to made a closure with a question: From this vision about us as body, mind and soul, what are we bringing to our life as our main foundation? Like a table needs the feet to balance it and stand, what is are we bringing as our foundation to our lives? Money? Beauty? Instagram followers? Career? Relationships? Material possessions?

All of it has its value and importance in our lives, but, all of it will go away one day… we get old and the youth beauty will also go away… We may lose our jobs, we may loose relationships, we may loose all our money and material possessions. What is then left?

That is the role of our soul, that should be our main foundation, that our believes will make us stand even during strong storms in our lives.

Whatever is you belief: God, Buddha, Mohammed, Jesus, Moses, bring it to your main foundation and fortify your faith, that will support you go through whatever is challenging you in this limited material life experience.

What are you making as the foundations of your life right now? Where are you investing more time today? Can it go away one day?

Then, it’s time to rethink… so you can fortify your life base for a more fulfilling life.

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Body, mind and soul

Live to work, or work to live?

I classify my life and career in “ages”, just like in human history in which we have some common scenarios in each age: I see some facts, mindset and behaviours that marked me in specific phases of my career.

As an example, my “middle age” career time was in the early 2000’s, and it was like the dark age of humanity, lots of work, and taxes to pay, low in money and some terror from my colleague who used to fill me with fear. Looks like the human middle age, right? hehe

When I was in this career “middle age”, I remember to share to my life Guru: my Opa (grandfather) all my dissatisfaction and worries, and he came to me with this question: Are you living to work, or are you working to live ?

Guru that is a guru don’t need to speak much right? Just this phrase made me realize that the way I was handling my life was not the way I wanted really to live. And it took to make positive changes afterwards… I needed this push and light, and insights fro my life were appearing on the next days.

So, sharing this light for you too… Are you living to work, or are you working to live ?

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